We spend enormous effort trying to feel better. But psychologically healthy people aren't the ones who avoid uncomfortable emotion. They're the ones who can feel it, read what it might be signaling, and decide what to do with the information.

Anxiety feels bad. So do anger, jealousy, disappointment...

High standards are useful applied to things you can influence. They become problematic when they turn into an argument with reality about who other people should be.

Capable, driven people are often very good at changing outcomes. When something isn't working, they study it, improve it, push harder...