The Shame of Having More

There is a particular kind of shame that shows up around success. Not failure. Not inadequacy. Not falling behind. Success.

A person starts making good money. They buy a better house, a nicer car, better clothes, better furniture, a more beautiful life. From the outside, i...

Understanding core needs and core commitments

You say you want freedom. Or love. Or peace. But your choices tell a different story. You keep overcommitting. You push love away. You chase goals that don't actually matter to you. You stay in dynamics that drain you. From the outside it can look like ...

The work of integrating anxiety

Not all anxiety needs to be "resolved." In many cases anxiety is an intelligent strategy — one that kept you functional, vigilant, productive, and safe when you needed it to. Like any well-built defense, it arose to do a real job and persists in proportion to how m...