Why External Problems Become Emotional Projects

Field Notes · by Kristen Tolbert

One thing I have noticed over decades of working with people is that they rarely become consumed by an external issue because of the issue alone. The issue becomes a psychological container.

Politics, professional titles, the economy, other people's behavior, the n...

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How to Lead People When Emotions Take Over

Field Notes. 
By Kristen Tolbert

Anyone leading a team of people is inevitably going to end up in a situation where they're managing some kind of chaos and a lot of heated emotion in the room. When I'm working with consultants, for instance, they're expected to be the experts in the room. They're wo...

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Leadership Without a Safety Net

Field Notes · by Kristen Tolbert

Most leadership books are written for managers inside well-resourced organizations. The assumption is that leaders operate with a buffer — budgets, teams, established process, institutional support. Even when things get hard, the system absorbs some of the strain. O...

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Thinking vs. Replication: The Difference Between Processing and Original Thought

Field Notes · by Kristen Tolbert

If we're not creating anything original, are we really thinking at all?

Someone says something fluent, well-organized, and entirely borrowed, and everyone in the room — including them — treats it as thinking. Is it though? They've read the thing, they can restate t...

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The Myth of Partnership: What It Really Takes to Build Together

People love to say they want a partner. It sounds collaborative, empowering, even noble. Most of them have no idea what they're asking for.

Partnership isn't showing up when it's convenient or when the vision is already clear. It's co-owning the hard parts, the messy middle, and the unseen labor th...

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Lifeforce

Field Notes · by Kristen Tolbert

People study entrepreneurs like they're zoo animals. Something to be observed, analyzed, maybe even envied. A curiosity. A puzzle to solve. What makes someone choose this life?

It's true, we're wired differently. Our drivers, our non-negotiables, our definitions of...

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